Topic- Describe the qualities you want in a person to be your ideal Husband.

Marriages are made in heaven, but so are thunder and lightning"-one of my favorite quotes. Marriage is a bond for life and as everything else in life I believe that a marriage has its share of ups and downs. And according to me a successful marriage is very important as I believe that the word 'divorce' must not exist in ones dictionary. I have got this one friend who says that it is her fourth husband who will be her Mr. Perfect and I find it to be a totally disgusting attitude. For a marriage to be successful ones choice of life partner has to be perfect. That of course does not mean that the person himself has to be perfect, but that both of us together have to be perfect.

The first quality that I think that a person to be my husband should have is a great sense of humor. A sense of humor does not indicate that I want a person who keeps firing sick PJ's all the time or makes a joke out of everything in life, but someone who can always see the bright side of things, some one who can make me laugh and laugh with me, someone who can always cheer me up however upset I am, someone who can make my heart smile!

The next quality has got to be the one of communication. I believe that any couple can totally work it out if they have a proper communication between them. But what exactly is proper communication? Proper communication for me is understanding what exactly the other person has to say, seeing both sides of an argument and also an ability to talk to each other about anything without any qualms. It is also being a perfect yin and yang with your partner. For example, I pride myself in being a good listener. So if I end up being with someone who doesn't talk too much then it could spell out trouble. A breakdown in communication can prove to be a pin-less grenade for a marriage.

Then of course there has to be love. I feel that the word 'love' is grossly misused these days. The meaning of love according to most people in this world today includes only everything carnal in nature. Venus, the Goddess of Love and Beauty has become the symbol of raw sexuality. I believe that the word has nothing to do with sexuality. My opinion would be that love is something which makes one care for another person more than themselves. Love is something that needs a lot of nurturing and understanding. The language of love is the best understood in this world as it does not need words. Love is the strongest bond that can be shared between two individuals and if there is true love, nothing can ever separate them.

As the subject of love popped up naturally the subject of emotions also pop up. In this new world of today the image of macho men who hide all emotions is giving way to the metrosexual man who is in touch with his emotions. The myth that 'Big boys don't cry' is on the path of being buried 'six feet under'. So the individual who I am going to marry has to be in touch with his emotions and should be able to express them at least to a certain extent. I mean, I have to hear that he loves me and that he cares for me and things like that. I cant spend an entire lifetime without hearing that! If something is wrong I have to know what it is or how can things work out?

Another quality in my ideal husband has to be one of trust. He should be someone who I can trust with my life. Trust is the most important element in a marriage. I mean, how can I spend my entire life with a person whom I do not trust? Breach of trust is suicidal for a marriage as it leads to doubt and doubt to deception.

Also, my husband has to support me in whatever I do. If that is so thn what the rest of the world says does not matter. I should know that in he will support me in my every endeavor and believe in me and what I want to do. He should not be like what my parents are. They say that they don't mind whatever career I choose as long as it is engineering or medical! I mean what kind of option is that? They don't even bother listening to what I want to do. Does it matter to them that I want go into journalism or rural development and human rights? It doesn't. But it should matter to my husband.

Another one of the important qualities in my ideal husband would have to be honesty and frankness. Lying is something that I cant stand. He has to be frank and open to me. He must be able to talk to me about anything. If he thinks that something I am doing does not feel right then he should tell me so and not think that he would hurt me in doing so.

My ideal husband should accept me as who I am. I have my set of principles. I have my opinions. I have my personality. I have my likes and dislikes. I have my ideas. I have my ideals. I have my personality. And I plan to stick onto them. I wouldn't want him to try to change any of that in me or change himself for me. Just because we get married does not mean that we change our individuality. I have my thoughts and he has his. We have to learn to respect them and not pass judgment.

Now coming to the looks. What if I say I want the mirror image of someone like Tom Cruise or Jude Law? It would be totally impractical because they would then say that the want someone like Nicole Kidman or Demi Moore! And that would be totally impossible because I know that I don't match up to even a quarter of any of them. It isn't the beauty on the outside that matters but the beauty on the inside. I don't care whether he looks like Hagar, the Horrible or Hugh Grant as long as I love him.

These would some up the main qualities that I want in my ideal husband. You could still include humility, patience, politeness, love for kids, love for nature, love for pets, quite a bit of cash and so on. I though don't want him to be a wimpy lapdog who hangs onto every word I say and follows me around. And he shouldn't even think of expecting the same from me though I wouldn't mind traveling with him. I need my space and my independence and I am ready to give him his. A successful and happy marriage is what I want and I hope I will get.





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